The #metoo and #timesup Movements Have Come to the Nerd Community

*Please note that although we are an all-ages blog, this post will be dealing with some sensitive subject matter that is not kid-appropriate.  However, we felt that this movement and the positive changes it is bringing about were too important to ignore here.  

I have been watching and waiting for the day to come when we would get our first news that a member of the nerd/geek community was guilty of sexual harassment, assault or worse.  Well, that day has arrived.  In a single afternoon, not one, but two cosplayers of some recognition were exposed for their rapes, assaults and other lesser, but still painful, crimes against women.  A week later, another cosplayer was exposed for his public harassment and assault of his fellow cosplayers, including men this time.  What a sad week in our community.

The news spread like wildfire in the community as cosplayers and con-goers alike warned each other to stay away from these men.  Statements of support were given all around.

However, there were rape apologists for both men that did not surprise me, but still sickened me.  Lame non-apology apologies were given from both men.  Whatever.  It has gotten to the point that I don’t even hear that anymore.  You raped.  You assaulted.  You are done.

We have arrived at such an important moment in time for all people, not just women, but for us all.  Decent men are no longer lumped in with those who rape and assault.  Women are believed.  Victims, no matter their gender identity, are provided support and guidance.  We are protecting each other.  This particular part of this very ugly chapter in our lives is a beautiful stand-out.  It is great to see.

What I am so very curious about is what is going to happen at WonderCon next month?  Will these people show?  If so, how is that going to go, I wonder?

Here’s what I do know.  Please allow me a rant.  We are done.  There will not be any more groping and cosplayers nervously dismissing it because we, “Don’t want to make a scene”.  There will not be any more going to security only to have your concerns blown-off.  Our voices will be heard.  They are quite loud and united now.  So, if you are a creeper that likes to insult and grope cosplayers or con-goers, your little reign of terror is at an end.  We are done.  Your actions will have consequences.  Our voices will be so loud that con management and security cannot ignore us.  You are on notice.  You will have to take your troll selves back to your mother’s basement and stick to exclusive online trolling, until we figure out a way to stop you anyway.  Rant over.

OK, so now as a parent what the heck do you do with all this information?  This is some real grown-up awkward as heck stuff!  However, it is stuff that is all over the news now, so your kids have heard something about it.  They most likely have questions.  I had to impose my parental veto rights and have the kiddo unfollow and block all the creeper cosplayers mentioned earlier on her Insta feed.  She asked why, which is a valid question.  Well, she is 11, so I told her the basics.  I told her that these men touched people where they should not without consent from the other person.  Then I reiterated that these areas should not ever be touched on her or any of her friends even with their consent.  I explained to her the concept of consent and how we, and we alone, are in charge of our bodies.  Nobody should ever touch you without your permission.  I also had to go into the discussion of how some people incorrectly feel that they have permission based on the type of cosplay (skimpy or racy) that the cosplayer is wearing.  It is so sad that I had to say any of this, but as is part of your parenting responsibility.  You have to have the awkward and unpleasant discussions with your kids.  At least before someone else gives them a whole lot of inaccurate information.

This is all just my take on things to be sure.  I would never ever tell you how to raise your kid, how to parent them on these issues or anything else.  This is just what worked for me and my kid in my home.  If you have some good tips on how to handle these very adult matters with your kids, I welcome your comments.

Until next time…. #metoo #timesup and I Believe You!

Love, Kim and Scout

9 O’Clock Bedtime Cosplay is Headed to ACE Comic Con in Phoenix!

We are packing up, suiting up and headed to Phoenix tomorrow for ACE Comic Con!  Please look for us and say, “Hello!”

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Photo: Marvel Studios
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Photo: Screen cap from marvelstudios.com

We have purchased two photo ops, one with Chris Evans and Anthony Mackie and the other with Tom Holland and Jacob Batalon, so we will be all like:

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Photo: Marvel

There are still tickets available, get them here.

Hope to see you there!

Love, Kim and Scout

*Lead Photo: aceuniverse.com

SDCC Recap: New Wave Avengers Cosplay

For our last SDCC recap, we wanted to share our latest cosplay, New Wave Avengers.

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This cosplay was thought up in about five minutes in our local JC Penney.  We were headed back to the car after getting our nails done and there were bright sport coats on sale at the store.  One blue and one red.  Scout said, “We could do Avenger suits!”  Those sportcoats didn’t fit either of us, but an idea was born!

After spending an afternoon on Amazon, I got everything sent to us on Prime and just in time for SDCC.

So, a quick breakdown of the pieces…  Sportcoats here, shirts here and ties here.  All on Amazon.  The Stark Glasses also on Amazon here.  The stars and stripes glasses from Target.  The buttons are from Cons we’ve attended over the years.  Pair all this with black leggings.  White sneakers are the classic styles from Reebok.  The Stark gloves from Amazon.  The shield is a Marvel Legends shield, which is really hard to find these days, but cosplaysky.com has a similar one.

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Finally, our make-up is from Dollar Tree.  No, really.

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I have to admit, we both really like these eye shadows and lipstick.  We are both still using them!

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All these amazing photos are by Justin Davidson Photography.  As always, we cannot recommend him highly enough!  Book him here.  You will not be disappointed!

Until next time…

Love, Kim and Scout

SDCC Recap: Report from the Floor and The Haul!

OK, this year’s SDCC didn’t disappoint in the merchandise realm at all!  We scored many things we had to have that we didn’t know we needed, so that is Con success!

Lego Batman is now protecting the LA Sanctum (aka home), but first he wanted to hold Lego hands.  :Click:

My favorite item from the Con this year?  My “This is Fine” dog.  That meme has become a big go-to for me, so I love having him around the house.

We also stomped the floor a bit and got some great photo ops:

We ran into Deadpool giving maximum effort as well:

Friday of SDCC, we participated in our third SDCC Marvel Group Photo:

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Here’s the Iron Man group with Scout:

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And the Cap group with me:

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More on our “New Wave Avengers” cosplays later.  The photo shoot is always a great opportunity to meet up and say hello to friends that you only get to see once a year. Here’s a shot from the cosplayers point-of-view:

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It is always crazy and always so much fun!  We had a blast hanging out with everyone.

On our way out, I spotted these great cosplayers and had to snap a final pic!

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We had a great time at nerd camp, as always!  Catch ya next year, SDCC!

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Next time, our new cosplay!

Until then…

Love, Kim and Scout

SDCC Recap: John Barrowman’s Tardis Dress

For our first recap, we are taking a look at John Barrowman’s Tardis cosplay dress designed by Elhoffer Design.

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John’s dress is super cute and was a huge hit at SDCC.

Because response was so overwhelmingly postitive, Elhoffer Design has made a dress available for pre-orders.

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The dress is, as with all Elhoffer Designs, super stretchy and comfortable and flattering to all body types.  The dress is size-inclusive in women’s sizes up to 3XL.

If you would like a dress of your own, then jump on it and order it here.

Pre-orders determine how many of each size will be ordered, so if you want to make sure you get one, you have to pre-order it.  Also, the pre-order price is discounted a bit.

Until next time…

Love, Kim and Scout

*Photos: elhofferdesign.com