The #metoo and #timesup Movements Have Come to the Nerd Community

*Please note that although we are an all-ages blog, this post will be dealing with some sensitive subject matter that is not kid-appropriate.  However, we felt that this movement and the positive changes it is bringing about were too important to ignore here.  

I have been watching and waiting for the day to come when we would get our first news that a member of the nerd/geek community was guilty of sexual harassment, assault or worse.  Well, that day has arrived.  In a single afternoon, not one, but two cosplayers of some recognition were exposed for their rapes, assaults and other lesser, but still painful, crimes against women.  A week later, another cosplayer was exposed for his public harassment and assault of his fellow cosplayers, including men this time.  What a sad week in our community.

The news spread like wildfire in the community as cosplayers and con-goers alike warned each other to stay away from these men.  Statements of support were given all around.

However, there were rape apologists for both men that did not surprise me, but still sickened me.  Lame non-apology apologies were given from both men.  Whatever.  It has gotten to the point that I don’t even hear that anymore.  You raped.  You assaulted.  You are done.

We have arrived at such an important moment in time for all people, not just women, but for us all.  Decent men are no longer lumped in with those who rape and assault.  Women are believed.  Victims, no matter their gender identity, are provided support and guidance.  We are protecting each other.  This particular part of this very ugly chapter in our lives is a beautiful stand-out.  It is great to see.

What I am so very curious about is what is going to happen at WonderCon next month?  Will these people show?  If so, how is that going to go, I wonder?

Here’s what I do know.  Please allow me a rant.  We are done.  There will not be any more groping and cosplayers nervously dismissing it because we, “Don’t want to make a scene”.  There will not be any more going to security only to have your concerns blown-off.  Our voices will be heard.  They are quite loud and united now.  So, if you are a creeper that likes to insult and grope cosplayers or con-goers, your little reign of terror is at an end.  We are done.  Your actions will have consequences.  Our voices will be so loud that con management and security cannot ignore us.  You are on notice.  You will have to take your troll selves back to your mother’s basement and stick to exclusive online trolling, until we figure out a way to stop you anyway.  Rant over.

OK, so now as a parent what the heck do you do with all this information?  This is some real grown-up awkward as heck stuff!  However, it is stuff that is all over the news now, so your kids have heard something about it.  They most likely have questions.  I had to impose my parental veto rights and have the kiddo unfollow and block all the creeper cosplayers mentioned earlier on her Insta feed.  She asked why, which is a valid question.  Well, she is 11, so I told her the basics.  I told her that these men touched people where they should not without consent from the other person.  Then I reiterated that these areas should not ever be touched on her or any of her friends even with their consent.  I explained to her the concept of consent and how we, and we alone, are in charge of our bodies.  Nobody should ever touch you without your permission.  I also had to go into the discussion of how some people incorrectly feel that they have permission based on the type of cosplay (skimpy or racy) that the cosplayer is wearing.  It is so sad that I had to say any of this, but as is part of your parenting responsibility.  You have to have the awkward and unpleasant discussions with your kids.  At least before someone else gives them a whole lot of inaccurate information.

This is all just my take on things to be sure.  I would never ever tell you how to raise your kid, how to parent them on these issues or anything else.  This is just what worked for me and my kid in my home.  If you have some good tips on how to handle these very adult matters with your kids, I welcome your comments.

Until next time…. #metoo #timesup and I Believe You!

Love, Kim and Scout

9 O’Clock Bedtime Cosplay is Headed to ACE Comic Con in Phoenix!

We are packing up, suiting up and headed to Phoenix tomorrow for ACE Comic Con!  Please look for us and say, “Hello!”

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Photo: Marvel Studios
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Photo: Screen cap from marvelstudios.com

We have purchased two photo ops, one with Chris Evans and Anthony Mackie and the other with Tom Holland and Jacob Batalon, so we will be all like:

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Photo: Marvel

There are still tickets available, get them here.

Hope to see you there!

Love, Kim and Scout

*Lead Photo: aceuniverse.com

New Cosplay Items! Star Lord Jackets

OK, I admit this freely.  I have a hoarding problem when it comes to the following: lipstick, black t-shirts, Cap fashion items and Star Lord fashion items.  I also constantly create and update my Star Lord cosplay, so when I found not one, but two Star Lord replica jackets, I pounced.

The first jacket is a great cosplay jacket from We Love Fine.  Get yours here.

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The jacket is well made and size inclusive, all the way up to 3XL in men’s sizing.  So, the sleeves are too long on me, but a quick roll-up will solve that problem.

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It is a great update to my Star Lord cosplay!

The other jacket is from Merchoid.  Get yours here.

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This one is also a replica.  However, there is some branding that prevents it from being 100% screen accurate.  But, let’s face it.  Who cares?  It’s cosplay, not rocket surgery, ya know?

Here are some photos of the lining and the Guardians pin.  These details are really great and make it perfect everyday cosplay wear.

This is also a men’s jacket, so the sizing issues with the arms is still there.  This jacket is also size inclusive, up to 3XL.

I just checked online and both versions are almost sold out, so get on it, nerds!

Love, Kim and Scout

Marvel Legends Series: Star Lord Helmet

We did our first unboxing video!

 

For our unboxing video, we take a look at our new Star Lord Helmet, which is part of the Marvel Legends Series.

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The Helmet looks great, as expected, with light up eyes and a great addition of Bluetooth speakers for playing music!

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The speakers work great!  I now have speakers in my room so I can listen to tunes while I work, just like the Guardians!

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Get your own helmet here.

Enjoy the video!

Love, Kim and Scout

Outfit of the Day: Doctor Strange Everyday Cosplay

For our latest outfit of the day, we wanted to show you a great everyday cosplay dress from Living Dead Clothing.

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I paired this dress with a dolman from Amazon.

 

I love the details on this dress!  From the Eye of Agamotto, the Cloak of Levitation and the belts and folds on the good doctor’s robes, Living Dead didn’t miss a beat.

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The spandex is heavy duty and and holds up well.  The cut is comfy.  My only complaint is that the dress only goes up to XL.  Living Dead is usually more size inclusive than this.  Sometimes they go up to 3XL with their pieces, but unfortunately not this time.

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The XL fits on me a bit snug, but it fits.  I wear a size 18/20 for reference.  As with all of their other dresses, regardless of size, these are true skater dress, aka they are short.  Leggings or biker shorts will be required.

This dress is a great everyday cosplay option for fans of The Sorcerer Supreme.  Get your own here.

Love, Kim and Scout